Oh blogging, how I've missed thee. I can't believe I've been such a slacker with writing. It's my first true love. I was home schooled most of my life and I'm grateful to my mother for instilling the love for writing at such a young age. It's a healthy, therapeutic habit that I find stimulating and calming at the same time.
So for my first new blog entry, I'd like to talk about women. Aren't we great? So complex, so interesting, so emotional. I'm sure if any men are reading this they're thinking, "pfft, yeah, 'complex' is putting it lightly." It's taken me a long time to admit that it's true. We are complex, but not so much that we can't be understood. I think a lot of women don't even understand themselves, which makes it extremely difficult to adequately explain ourselves to men so they aren't left scratching their heads every time we open our mouths.
I once read a book called "The Female Brain" which, in great detail, explains the inner workings of our brains from conception to old age. It was very interesting and is not only helping me understand why I say and do certain things, but it also helped me understand where Olivia is in her brain development and why she drives me to the brink of insanity on most days. Yes, she's a baby and most babies will drive you nuts at some point. But she's also a female baby which translates into "There's a lot more going on upstairs than we realize". And boy (or girl), isn't that the truth.
I'm really saddened at how often I see women putting themselves down. What's up with this sickening epidemic? I think women by nature are driven by the pressures of their parents, teachers, peers and society to be the best, the smartest, the prettiest and the most talented. When in reality, we should be learning that there's no such thing. There will always be someone skinnier, prettier or smarter out there and life isn't about being the best. It's about reaching our own personal best...even if that means you're average. Who are we to say that we aren't good enough? Did People magazine tell you that you're inadequate unless you can afford designer clothes, a boob job and a fairy tale wedding that's over in 72 days? Go bowling and spare me. There's so much more to finding happiness in this life than what's portrayed in the unenlightened bubble of society.
I, for one, am perfectly happy in my "average" state. Am I the prettiest girl around? To my husband, yes, but not by society's standards. Am I the most skilled derby player? Of course not. Am I the smartest? No way. But I do know what I am, and that's one of a kind. I'm beautiful inside and out, I care deeply for others, I'm an amazing mother, a loving wife, and I know that I'm capable of achieving anything I want to...without fear of failure. For me, the only way I could fail is if I didn't try at all. If all of the women I know would spend half as much time building themselves up instead of complaining about what's not good enough, they'd be reaching their true potential in no time. Which, by the way, has nothing to do with external looks. Ask any man around, while it's true they are visual creatures, the sexiest part of a woman is her confidence. Paper beats rock, rock beats scissors, confidence beats everything else.
In closing, here is one of my favorite quotes:
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?' Who are you not to be? Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We are born to make manifest the glory...that is within us all. It's not just in some of us, it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others." - Marianne Williamson
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